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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.postbourgie.com/2009/12/21/hurting-for-female-directors/">quadmoniker at PostBourgie, &#8220;Hurting for Female Directors&#8221;</a> (emphasis mine):</p>
<blockquote><p>His answer was that he simply hired the best writers, whether that led to any sort of fair representation from women or non-whites. What he didn’t realize, of course, was that his definition of ”best” probably excluded, intentionally or not, all but white males.</p>
<p>He added that he didn’t want to sit around and count quotas because he felt that was condescending. But it’s not just about parity; making sure his organization was more representative was about realizing there are varied points of view that his history as a white male might prevent him from immediately understanding. When you’re talking about writers good enough to get an assignment from Harper’s, there isn’t just one best. <strong>After a certain level of quality, distinctions from one writer to another become a matter of taste, and this particular editor was showing his bias toward white males.</strong> Pulling in other perspectives would enrich Harper’s voice.</p>
<p>[...] I’m not going to say that [<em>The Hurt Locker</em>'s different emphases] was due to Bigelow’s special woman-sense or anything, because we don’t know why she was able to make it so good. That’s kind of the point. The excellence of the movie speaks to Dargis’s point and the problem with Harper’s at once. If we leave out half the population from movie-making, we’re leaving out half the perspectives that might be able to bring something new to the table. The major studios would be better off if they brought it, because I’d love to see more movies like The Hurt Locker.</p></blockquote>
<p>The last point in particular makes a lot of sense to me: some people would assume that, well, when it comes to imagining new things and taking things from new perspectives, white men can do it too &#8212; that white men are capable of providing any perspective or creative direction that humanity could possibly provide &#8212; and therefore there is no need to necessarily <em>seek out</em> a diverse creative class, because there is nothing a Muslimah or gay Filipino could bring that a white male couldn&#8217;t, and it&#8217;s an insult to white men to imply that they do not hold the entire world in their mind&#8217;s hands.</p>
<p>But they don&#8217;t, because no human being is capable of tapping into the entire universe of perspectives available. We all see the world through unique, specialized lenses that were formed and shaped by our experiences as <em>the person we are</em>. The place we grew up in, the family that raised us, the way the world treated us, the distinct qualities of the culture we are part of, the choices we make as adults as far as the direction of our lives, our careers, our relationships, our hobbies and passions. All of these things change the shape of our particular lens in their own unique way, and we all have a unique combination of these things which forms our own unique perspective of the world.</p>
<p>But those lenses have limits, they <em>necessarily</em> have limits, and we do not always even know what those limits are. Those factors we share with others will create a lens shape quite similar to their own, and when we are surrounded by like people we might often begin to believe that our shared lens is not a matter of our shared experience, but rather a matter of universality.</p>
<p>This is what leads us to believe that there is nothing the white male cannot achieve, cannot bring to the creative table: his experience is shared by so many, and <em>especially</em> shared by so many in power, that he, and we, might begin to believe that it is not a particularly-shaped lens anymore, but rather <em>no lens at all</em>.  And when we believe that he has no lens at all, what benefit could there be to paying attention and inviting participation from people who do have differently-shaped lenses? No creative benefit, certainly, because there is no difference between what those different perspectives see and what the white male could see if he felt like trying. Because he can see all.</p>
<p>And so we wind up where we are: it is an insult to<em> creativity itself </em>to suggest that it is worthwhile to drink in a diversity of perspective, and it becomes not a matter of improving the depth and quality of creative offerings, but rather a matter of personal benefit to the creators.</p>
<p>And we can see where a white male might prickle when confronted with a person who appears to be suggesting that he does not deserve to sit on his side of the conference table, that someone else who can do <em>no more</em> than <em>he</em> could do has some greater worthiness of sitting where he does based on factors outside hir creative potential, and that he should actually willingly give up his seat to make room for hir. It becomes a personal affront, rather than a pressure to improve the greater craft. And, in fact, might become an affront to the quality and depth of his craft, to specifically invite participation from people who bring with them one perspective, but only one &#8212; while he brings all.</p>
<p>So he will invite only those different people whom he favors for <em>personal</em> benefit. And he will continue to scoff at the suggestion that <em>diversity</em> is <em>wealth</em>.</p>
<p>How it might be changed? I don&#8217;t know. But one place to start is to make everyone aware that they can only see the world through their own personal lens, and that their lens has borders, limits, boundaries. That <em>no one</em> can approach the world <em>without</em> a lens, and that every lens is malleable, not set, not infinite, but <em>formed in the first place</em> by one&#8217;s personal experiences.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s going to take some time.</p>
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From the O-R: K***** Y****, 13, and his sisters K****, 9, and K********, 4, tend to their patch of tomatoes this afternoon at (the garden)… K***** also is a garden guardian who waters all of the plants on a regular basis.
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<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="size-full wp-image-603" title="eWxEOeYOhqsdxx45n6KNvl03o1_400" src="http://threeriversblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/eWxEOeYOhqsdxx45n6KNvl03o1_400.jpg" alt="eWxEOeYOhqsdxx45n6KNvl03o1_400" width="320" height="273" /></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;">From <a href="http://www.observer-reporter.com/">the O-R</a>: <em>K***** Y****, 13, and his sisters K****, 9, and K********, 4, tend to their patch of tomatoes this afternoon at (the garden)… K***** also is a garden guardian who waters all of the plants on a regular basis.</em></span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Look <a href="http://threeriversblog.com/2009/07/the-neighborhood-garden.html">familiar</a>? My thoughts are conflicted in that post, about the real root (so to speak) of our modern issues with connection to our earth, but make no mistake: this garden is an unequivocal positive for the people who use it, and it makes me inordinately happy that it is here.</p>
<hr style="height: 2px; width: 60%;" size="2" />Right-leaning media outfits are making a big deal out of this picture. &#8220;Who&#8217;s helping whom? Obama couldn&#8217;t care less&#8221;&#8230; Obama wasn&#8217;t being a &#8220;gentleman&#8221;&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-605" title="2hmkf1h" src="http://threeriversblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/2hmkf1h.jpg" alt="2hmkf1h" width="349" height="343" /></p>
<p>There are two things going on here:</p>
<p>* Professor Gates, who has a cane <em>so that he can move independently</em>, could probably have made it down the stairs on his own. That&#8217;s not to say without pain or difficulty &#8212; but he wasn&#8217;t helpless. The reaction to this photo presupposes that the crippled man must be completely unable to help his own damn self, and that it is noble when the able-bodied officer presumes to &#8220;help&#8221; him. Do you see what this does? It removes Prof. Gates as an agent; it makes him, instead, an agency-less object, existing for the purpose of the able-bodied man: this time, as a signifier of character (taking on that noble burden).</p>
<p>* Speaking of noble burdens: the race of the men involved cannot be ignored. Sgt. Crowley is a white man helping a crippled man. In the right wing&#8217;s reading of this photo, Sgt. Crowley becomes a symbol of whiteness: an example of the way in which white men are Good, in which Good is defined as the way white men do things. Think boot straps: this fantastical myth is all about the inherent goodness of the white man, who does things the right way, in contrast with the minorities, who are too lazy, selfish, etc. to bother. Sgt. Crowley presuming to help Prof. Gates stands in contrast with President Obama, who is walking ahead, minding his own business. This shouldn&#8217;t be an issue, but it is seen directly in front of the white man taking on the noble burden, and thus becomes an indictment on the character of the shiftless, self-absorbed black man.</p>
<hr style="height: 2px; width: 60%;" size="2" />And speaking of that beer summit:</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-606" title="photo-beprer-summit" src="http://threeriversblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/photo-beprer-summit-400x279.jpg" alt="photo-beprer-summit" width="400" height="279" /></p>
<p>Who was it for?</p>
<p>Of course it was reported as a sort of reconciliation: a way to help Prof. Gates and Sgt. Crowley make up. But that wasn&#8217;t what it was.</p>
<p>To sum: Prof. Gates arrived home after a long and tiring flight, and couldn&#8217;t get in his house. Someone called the police, thinking that a stranger was breaking into his home. Police arrive when Prof. Gates was already in his home and calling a locksmith. Prof. Gates shows ID to Sgt. Crowley proving this is his home, may have been &#8220;belligerent&#8221; in doing so. Sgt. Crowley responds by luring him to his front porch, where he is handcuffed and arrested for disorderly conduct. Outrage ensues; charges are dropped. (Police insist the original caller reported that black men were breaking in; recordings prove that she said nothing about race at all.)</p>
<p>Journalist asks Obama about this during a health care press conference. Obama says a few predictable, innocuous things, then says that it is obvious that the police &#8220;acted stupidly&#8221; in arresting Prof. Gates in his own home for no crime committed, then makes a simple comment about the inarguable history of racial profiling in this country.</p>
<p>Sgt. Crowley objects loudly, saying the President is &#8220;way off base.&#8221; Sgt. Crowley is obviously very upset, and the police force is standing in solidarity with him. The country is beginning to criticize Obama for admitting the troublesome racial aspects of the story; the conventional wisdom is becoming that Obama bit off more than he could chew in &#8220;bringing race into this&#8221; &#8212; and white America will make sure that he is taken down a notch for it.</p>
<p>So Obama invites the two men to the White House for a beer. The country reacts with mild derision &#8212; but the attacks begin to fade. The issue is neutralized.</p>
<p>See what&#8217;s going on here? White man does something unfair to black man. Black man protests that this was unfair. White man&#8217;s sensibilities are offended at the accusation that he could ever be An Unfair-ist, makes this into an argument about whether or not he is a Good Man (being unfair would necessitate that he is a Bad Man). All his friends know that he is, in fact, a Good Man, and they stand up to say as much. Black man looks around, realizes that the numbers are not on his side. That everyone has ignored the unfair way he was treated, and his family and friends have been treated throughout history. That there is unrest among them, and he may face very real consequences if he presses the issue any further.</p>
<p>So the black man backs down. Makes conciliatory noises. To soothe the white man&#8217;s feelings. So that the white man won&#8217;t cause him any more trouble.</p>
<p>What was this beer summit about? Did Obama really think he was going to solve the issue of racial profiling and police officers behaving unethically by inviting two men out for a beer? Of course he didn&#8217;t. That wasn&#8217;t the purpose.</p>
<p>The purpose was to get the offended white man (and his white friends) to shut up and stop causing the black men trouble.</p>
<p>And I don&#8217;t blame him.</p>
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<blockquote><p>Quick, think of a disease or condition that affects only men and is considered by a large portion of the population to be fake, created by the pharmaceutical industry, or psychosomatic.  *Sound of crickets.*</p></blockquote>
<p>An <a href="http://ftlouie.typepad.com/womensports/2009/04/a-little-quiz-gender-and-disease.html">excellent look</a> at the gendered construction of medical conditions at the <a href="http://ftlouie.typepad.com/womensports/">Women&#8217;s Sports Blog</a>.</p>
<blockquote><p>Most of the language about credulous patients being duped by Big Pharma is directed at women and conditions they suffer from disproportionately.  Women are, after all, emotional and have the ability to create amazing physical symptoms solely from their minds.  At the same time, women&#8217;s bodies are considered to be in a constant state of abnormality relative to men&#8217;s bodies.  The word &#8216;hysteria&#8217; is etymologically related to the Latin word for uterus, which was long considered to be the site of women&#8217;s mental health problems, and hence its removal is called a hysterectomy [...]</p>
<p>&#8216;Just get out and exercise&#8217; or &#8216;just change your diet&#8217; is fairly lousy advice for anyone who hasn&#8217;t been able to get out of bed. But as a society we still maintain the illusion that changes in hormones, brain chemistry, or the like are failures of self-control or willpower.</p></blockquote>
<p>She also discusses the disproportionate burden laid on mothers of disabled children. <a href="http://ftlouie.typepad.com/womensports/2009/04/a-little-quiz-gender-and-disease.html">Read the whole thing</a>.</p>
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<p>Paul Campos <a href="http://lefarkins.blogspot.com/2009/07/fat-rightsgay-rights.html">draws a few parallels</a> between fat rights and gay rights — not attempting to rank oppressions, but to help people better understand the fat acceptance movement. He seems (to my privileged straight in-betweenie ass) to do so respectfully, without dismissing or degrading. A few excerpts:</p>
<blockquote><p>“Everyone knows” how to stop being gay: Stop having gay sex. Everyone also knows how to stop being fat: restrict caloric intake and increase activity levels, forever. In both cases, you see, it’s a simple matter of a “lifestyle change.” And of course both arguments are correct: It’s perfectly possible, in theory, for people who strongly prefer to have sex with other people of the same gender to stop doing so, and become “normal.” It’s perfectly possible, in theory, for fat people to eat less, increase activity levels, become thin, and stay that way (become “normal,” i.e., thin). It’s perfectly possible in theory, but in practice almost no one in either category stays straight or thin […]</p>
<p>The protests of many a liberal regarding how fat people can be cured of fatness with the right combination of willpower and sensitive interventions sound quite similar to the protests of many a cultural conservative that gay people can be cured of gayness with the right combination of willpower and sensitive interventions […]</p>
<p>How many upper-middle class and upper class American women maintain a size 4 or 6 when, in a less fat-phobic society, they would be a size 10 or 12? For such people, the idea that the fantastic amounts of time, money, and most of all mental and emotional energy they’ve devoted to conforming to an arbitrary cultural norm must be justified by a socially respectable reason. In this case, the secular god of “a healthy lifestyle” does the work performed by the Book of Leviticus for the closeted gay cultural conservative […]</p>
<p>It’s my belief that, in another generation or two or three, the casual fat hatred now flaunted by many an otherwise doubleplusgood-thinking liberal will look as shameful as the casual fag-bashing engaged in by his predecessors a generation ago […]</p>
<p>[<em>In the update at the bottom of the post</em>]<br />
In short, in an ideal world we would pursue public health initiatives to improve lifestyle without any reference to weight or weight loss. Yet given a choice between public health programs that demonize fatness as a strategy for improving nutrition and physical activity, and doing nothing, I believe the latter is preferable.</p>
<p>One basis of this post’s original analogy is my belief — and it’s shared by a growing number of academics and other critics — that supposed concerns about the health risks of higher than average weight are often proxies for aesthetic digust, moral disapproval, and class anxiety. (Not to mention the financial interests of the nation’s $50 billion a year weight loss industry). In other words, we’ve seen this moral panic movie before, with an ever-changing cast of characters playing the role of the folk devils of the moment.</p></blockquote>
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&#8211; mscripchick
(Today is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. Click through for a short summary of those dead whose stories are known.)
I don’t know how you have a conversation with people for whom “because it’s right” is not enough of a reason to do something. I really don’t.
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they stuff our bodies into boxes &#8230;</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; <a href="http://crip-power.com/2008/11/17/for-teisha-cannon/">mscripchick</a></p>
<p>(Today is the <a href="http://www.transgenderdor.org/">Transgender Day of Remembrance</a>. <a href="http://www.transgenderdor.org/?page_id=58">Click through</a> for a short summary of those dead whose stories are known.)</p>
<blockquote><p>I don’t know how you have a conversation with people for whom “because it’s right” is not enough of a reason to do something. I really don’t.</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; commenter <a href="http://brownfemipower.com/archives/3307#comment-222744">Isabel</a></p>
<blockquote><p>&#8230; arguing with a doctor about weight is like arguing with a priest about whether you should be a Christian.</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; commenter <a href="http://www.therotund.com/?p=511#comment-14919">Eve</a></p>
<blockquote><p>They&#8217;re waiting for the self-disclosure that explains why someone who seems so &#8220;normal&#8221; would identify with the disability community. They&#8217;re waiting to find out exactly why the friend who spoke up <em>isn&#8217;t </em>just like everyone else after all: The excuse that allows them to continue ignoring disability identity and culture. They&#8217;re waiting to be able to explain to each other, later, that:</p>
<p><strong>&#8220;I don&#8217;t know anyone with Down&#8217;s. How was I supposed to know her sister had it?&#8221; [...]</strong></p>
<p>The reason an able-bodied or able-looking person needs a reason to be a disability advocate is simple: So everybody else has a reason <em>not </em>to be. It&#8217;s &#8220;<a href="http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com/2004/10/word-whores-now-and-then-ill-coin.html" target="_blank">not their dog</a>.&#8221; [...]</p>
<p>Disability culture (<a href="http://berkeoutspoken.blogspot.com/2008/04/giving-in-to-asl-only-demands-is-not.html" target="_blank">Deaf-Side debate</a> notwithstanding) doesn&#8217;t require that you show your crip card, or your sister&#8217;s, mother&#8217;s, or brother&#8217;s, to be in favor of <em>that which is right.</em></p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; <a href="http://www.disaboom.com/Blogs/veralidaine/archive/2008/05/06/do-i-need-a-reason-to-support-disability-rights.aspx">Veralidaine</a></p>
<blockquote><p>I write from San Francisco, where, in the months leading up the election, I saw a massive mobilization within the queer spaces in which I spend time to get people to vote no on 8, but I saw little or no public discourse among LGBT people about very important state propositions: 5, 6, and 9—all of which potentially impacted things like funding for prisons, drug crime sentencing, or the trying of minors as adults in this state&#8230;.</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; <a href="http://www.racialicious.com/2008/11/12/open-letter-resisting-the-racist-blame-game-post-prop-8/#more-2050">Adele Carpenter</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Just take the other day. I was exiting a building in a stream of white people who had been able to afford the ticket to the show we had just seen. I was pushed off the path by two couples and a what looked like a father with his arm around his daughter. Wizard righted me. No one else came to help. They were too busy talking about the awesome Obama victory. Then, father ran down, literally, a poor black homeless woman who was trying to walk upstream. She kept saying &#8220;excuse me, excuse me.&#8221; Father pushed her aside; the white people on either side flooded around her. She was entirely invisible. I looked her in the eye and exchanged words with her. No one else seemed to see her. The Obama victory, you know.</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211; <a href="http://cripwheels.blogspot.com/2008/11/im-sick-of-this.html">Wheelchair Dancer</a></p>
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